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I almost lost my virginity tonight with a guy on Grindr, but I didn't want to do it because I'm a stupid f**k who is trying too hard to look like a romantic when actually I'm just an insecure little bitch.

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As a gay guy I know it can be hard ...especially on Gridr with people sending nudes saying "wanna f**k?":urite:

 

 My honest advice ( I am 30 ) Save it for someone you love or care about man .....don't just give it up to someone who looks good :lemmetellu:. Virginity is nothing to be ashamed of be proud and know you have the choice to save it for someone you give a damn about and vice versa.Nothing wrong with sucking some D tho :milkney:

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you should be sucking all the D on grindr and visit the city and participate in a hotel orgy with you as the bottom, keep the door unlocked hunty and spread your wings :lemmetellu:

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2 hours ago, -Liar. said:

I almost lost my virginity tonight with a guy on Grindr, but I didn't want to do it because I'm a stupid f**k who is trying too hard to look like a romantic when actually I'm just an insecure little bitch.

Do you want a one night stand, or do you want something deeper? I have no shame in admitting I lost my virginity at 21 as well, to a man I loved very much at the time, who also loved me. And it was beautiful and amazing. And it was his first time as well. There's nothing more special than that. :crying1: (Let's not bring up the fact that he dumped me for another bitch about 6 months ago.)

If you want someone to love, wait. If you just want someone to f**k, then go out and grab someone.

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6 hours ago, -Liar. said:

I almost lost my virginity tonight with a guy on Grindr, but I didn't want to do it because I'm a stupid f**k who is trying too hard to look like a romantic when actually I'm just an insecure little bitch.

First: Don't feel pressure you are only 21! You didn't want to do it, so wait and take your time, go on dates, meet people and keep in touch.

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9 hours ago, -Liar. said:

I almost lost my virginity tonight with a guy on Grindr, but I didn't want to do it because I'm a stupid f**k who is trying too hard to look like a romantic when actually I'm just an insecure little bitch.

just save it until someone special comes by

there's nothing wrong with being a virgin lmao:quirkney:

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I'm 20 and I'm still a virgin. There's hope for me I guess :soyeah: 

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2 hours ago, Isla. said:

I'm 20 and I'm still a virgin. There's hope for me I guess :soyeah: 

Same sis :urite: slay 

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First of all, losing your virginity isn't as important as people make it out to be, second of all, decide what you want: do you want to spread your legs (more power to you) or do you want to wait for someone special? I personally want to wait for the right person to come along, I know people might say "life's short" but there's plenty of time for beautiful things to happen. Sex is special, it creates a bond and I want it to mean something. If you're not into that, then go f*ck whoever you want! It's really that simple. :outwithit:

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Everybody is different. When it's meant to be, it'll happen. You'll find a guy so hot you won't even think about feeling insecure :bwink:

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The first time I had sex(I was 19) I couldn't stop imagining my brothers and sister, people I loved, reproaching me. It was stupid of me because they'd never do such a thing and they were always supportive, but it was as if I got stuck in a bubble of self-destructive thoughts for a few days. It all seems funny now, I can't believe I ever felt that way about sex. :triggered:

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I highly, highly, highly recommend saving it for someone special. I couldn't imagine losing mine to a rando... Also, if you're not already, get more educated on STDs/STIs, how they can be transferred, etc. Even from oral sex, you can get pretty much any STD that's not HIV, so don't go sucking some random dude's d*ck or getting your d*ck sucked from some random dude and think it's safe. I generally would recommend not doing hookups. Your chances for STDs are higher, like I said, I wouldn't want to lose my virginity to a stranger or someone I didn't care/feel deeply for, and hookups always emotionally f**k me up, idky. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. Honestly, I prefer jacking off to hooking up. I don't have to worry about STDs, getting fucked over (not in the good way) by people i don't really know, don't have to put in the time and energy of actually talking to someone, meeting up, and whatever happens after, don't have to deal with post-hookup regret, it's just easier. Sex can be a wonderful thing, but it's much more wonderful when it's with someone you know, trust, and love. Britney's song "Better" is so true lol... "When you know somebody, and they know your body... it's so much better." 

Just an opinion coming from someone who's had sex in love and also had their fair share of hookups, mistakes, and regret. :) 

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I'm 19, turning 20 this month and i'm a virgin as well. I probably have some old dust going on there. :calculating:

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20 hours ago, Urbanney said:

I highly, highly, highly recommend saving it for someone special. I couldn't imagine losing mine to a rando... Also, if you're not already, get more educated on STDs/STIs, how they can be transferred, etc. Even from oral sex, you can get pretty much any STD that's not HIV, so don't go sucking some random dude's d*ck or getting your d*ck sucked from some random dude and think it's safe. I generally would recommend not doing hookups. Your chances for STDs are higher, like I said, I wouldn't want to lose my virginity to a stranger or someone I didn't care/feel deeply for, and hookups always emotionally f**k me up, idky. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. Honestly, I prefer jacking off to hooking up. I don't have to worry about STDs, getting fucked over (not in the good way) by people i don't really know, don't have to put in the time and energy of actually talking to someone, meeting up, and whatever happens after, don't have to deal with post-hookup regret, it's just easier. Sex can be a wonderful thing, but it's much more wonderful when it's with someone you know, trust, and love. Britney's song "Better" is so true lol... "When you know somebody, and they know your body... it's so much better." 

Just an opinion coming from someone who's had sex in love and also had their fair share of hookups, mistakes, and regret. :) 

I agree with this and that probably explains why I'm still a virgin lol. I'm just not the type of person to go around sleeping with anybody I meet - I'd rather be in a committed relationship and really love the person. 

And I hate the stigma around condoms really - that people seem to think that they're 'uncool'. I'd rather use condoms then to risk myself to STD's, a lot of which can cause nasty infections and even worse - HIV - which is a lifelong disease (but manageable) and I don't really want children either so I'd rather not be pregnant and have to go through the abortion process.

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Just do whatever you're comfortable with. I don't really think it's much of a big deal tbh. I lost mine at 17 to this college guy in the backseat of his pickup truck, classy. :whitney:

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If it didn't feel right, you may have just regretted it. You need to wait until you feel like its right and you will know it when you feel it.

I lost my virginity at 18 with my boyfriend, 7 years later we're still together and I don't regret anything.

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On 3/8/2017 at 5:13 PM, BoyToySoldier said:

Just do whatever you're comfortable with. I don't really think it's much of a big deal tbh. I lost mine at 17 to this college guy in the eat of his pickup truck, classy:whitney:

I somehow knew your experience would be something like this :giggleney:

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