Demi Lovato In Complex MagazineSeptember 29, 2015
Got my mind on your body and your body on my mind.
We knew she had a taste for the cherry, but we might prefer the banana instead.
In her new interview, Lovato talks about feeling liberated with her **** new image, being tight with Iggy Azalea (they met at JLo’s house, naturally) and her new song “Stone Cold” which she premiered a bit of earlier today.
We chose our favorite Q&As from the story, but you can read the full interview Complex:
You don’t have a lot of celebrity friend photos on your Instagram.
I don’t really hang out with celebrities. I guess I do sometimes. I like Hailee Steinfeld. And Nick [Jonas]. But I don’t count Nick and Joe [Jonas] as celebrities. I’ve grown up with them. I’m not the type of person that’s on Instagram posting pictures of me and tons of my best friends. I have my core group, and they’re the type of people that will be there for me in the middle of the night. They’re the type of people that are like, “You’re being a ***** right now. Don’t talk to me that way,” and I’m like, “Whoa. Sorry. I didn’t realize it.” I don’t have anybody around me who kisses my ***.
You and Selena Gomez used to be close, but you’ve had some ups and downs over the years. Are you talking anymore?
Does it have anything to do with a particular relationship choice of hers?
Not really. Not anymore.
Did you sign the petition to get Justin Bieber deported?
No, I didn’t. He’s actually a nice guy. I don’t really know him that well, but he seems to have grown up. He looks like he’s maturing. But, you know, when you’re young and you get older, you change and people change. You have things in common, and then all of a sudden, you don’t. It’s just a part of life.
You’re pretty tight now with Iggy Azalea. You’re even a bridesmaid in her wedding. How did you guys meet?
We met at Jennifer Lopez’s Halloween party. I was dressed as Lucille Ball and Wilmer was Desi Arnaz. I’m kind of a little socially awkward when it comes to parties and going out because I feel like, unless you’re going to get ****** up, everybody’s awkward. Since I don’t do that anymore, and Iggy wasn’t drinking—she doesn’t do anything—I was kind of like, “Hey. I’m a big fan. I love your music.” We start talking, and it turns out that we’re neighbors and we didn’t even know.
Then I saw her at all the Jingle Ball shows. Then we got to actually hang, and we just became close. She’s so awesome. She’s very, very, very real. What you see is what you get. I think sometimes that pushes people away, but that’s what I admire about her. She’s the furthest thing from fake. In this entertainment business, that’s so hard to find with anybody. That’s why I don’t have any very famous friends. The very few that I do have are real.
Like Jennifer Lopez?
She’s really, really chill. We went to Park City for New Year’s. We’d hung out several times, but being there with her in Park City—it was so nice and awesome to watch her just blend in. But, also, not blend in because she’s still decked out in fur. But to wake up and she’s in her sweats with no makeup and still looks flawless, you’re kind of like, “What the ****? You’re not even human.” But she’s so real and so chill. I love her to death. She’s a really great human being. And Iggy, too. She’s awesome.
Why do you think you and Iggy get along so well?
The reason why we relate a lot to each other and the people around me—my close friends who aren’t necessarily famous or even in the industry—is that and we’ve come out strong. Iggy has really gone through **** and she’s come out super strong and didn’t let that take her down a devastating path. There’s respect there. The fact that she’s gone through so much and I’ve gone through so much and on a Friday night we can make gingerbread houses together instead of going out and drinking our sorrows away—that’s ******* cool. I love that. It’s nice to have somebody who’s younger in the entertainment business who doesn’t do all of that stuff.
It’s very rare, so we stick together.
You’ve got a good support system.
I do. My closest friends who aren’t necessarily famous are so awesome. I’m very, very, very blessed and very lucky to have the friends that I do. I believe that friends are chosen family. They’re not friends to me, they’re family.
You and Wilmer have been together for five years, so he must be pretty much like family now.
Oh, yeah. He’s very, very family. We have been together for almost five years now, off and on. The only times that we were off was when I was not in a healthy state of mind, or he was like: “I can’t be with you until you get sober. I can’t enable what you’re doing right now.” Or with food: “You need to get your food settled before you can get into a relationship. You need to learn how to love yourself first.” So I did, and then that made our relationship so much stronger.
You really have been through a lot of ****.
Yeah, a lot of which I haven’t even talked about. The stuff that I have shared, I feel like sometimes it is so heavy, and I’m like, “Y’all think that’s heavy? I haven’t even shared the heavy part.” But I don’t feel like I’ll ever have to until I write a book or something. If you were to sit my friends and me in a group together and we all shared our life stories, you wouldn’t understand how we’re still alive because of either our addictions or the stuff that we’ve survived. I never want to be like, “Oh, I’ve been through so much,” like it’s a sob story. I’m proud of what I’ve been through and gotten over and sometimes, even to this day, when I do go through something I’m like, “OK. It’s just a part of my story.” It’ll be more to tell, and that’s fine.
You’ve got a long way to go.
I’m just 23. I never want people to feel sorry for me, and I also think that there’s always someone who has it worse. Not to invalidate what I’ve been through or what I’m feeling, but there’s somebody who has it worse, and I’ve always got to remember that.
You’ve taken on a sexier role in the promotion of this album. How have you felt about it?
It’s liberating. It’s not like I have something to hide. I went to this pool party, and somebody got a picture of me in bad lighting. It was just cellulite city. I saw it, and I cringed at first. Then I read the caption underneath, and it was like, “I’m so proud of this girl. She’s real. Even though she may have cellulite, she’s not letting it stop her from rocking this bathing suit. She looks awesome. She’s worked hard.” I saw that, and I replied to it. I was like, “At first I cringed when I saw this, but this makes me so happy to see.”
You’ve really been celebrating your curves on Instagram. Do you have a curve inspiration figure?
I’ve always said the Kardashians. When they came into the spotlight, they kind of revolutionized what beauty was when it came to body shapes. For so long, it was the heroin-chic ’90s supermodel thing, and I feel like, when the Kardashians came into the picture, people started to look at it because it was different. They were like, “You know what? That’s actually really beautiful.” From then, I noticed that Beyoncé was thicker, and Nicki Minaj is thicker. When I say thick—like when I call my thighs thick—I love it. I think it’s a good thing. Watching them really helped me learn to accept my body image, too. I’m not naturally super thin. I have an athletic body. I just have to embrace that. There are days when it’s hard to, but more and more, there are days where I’m actually proud of my body.
Is the album speaking to any specific point in your life?
I mean, there’s a song that I wrote from an experience that was 10 years ago. There’s a song that I wrote that’s from an experience of three years ago. Then there are songs that I’m writing right now because I’m just now getting the balls to say some of the stuff that I want to. As life goes on and you learn more, you are able to come to terms with certain things, like my dad passing. I’m still processing it. At some point, I was like, “I just need to write about it and get it out because I’ve been putting it off for the whole process of the album.” I’ve finally gotten somewhere with that.
What would you say is the ballsiest song on the album?
“Cool for the Summer” was pretty ballsy. I think “Waiting for Ya” is a pretty ballsy song. I’m excited for people to hear it, too because that’s the song where I show you that a lot of people have their cute little feuds in public, but I don’t really have those because if you want to have a feud, you can just come to me in person and we’ll settle it.
What’s your personal favorite on the album?
“Stone Cold.” It’s this extremely soulful, almost Motown type of song, and it’s a ballad.
Your voice sounds incredible on that one.
I want the Grammy committee to hear [that song] so that one day they can see that—I know that I’m capable of getting there. I just want people to see it finally. When I say getting there, I don’t mean winning one. I just want to be nominated for one. You can’t go higher than the Grammys in the music industry. That was a huge goal for this album. I watched the Grammy nominations last year and I was like, “I want to be there so bad.” It really gave me that kick in the *** to make music that was worthy of it. This is a song that I feel like is worthy of notification.
If you did get a nomination, what does that symbolize for you?
Everything in my entire singing career—all of the guitar lessons, all of the voice lessons, all of the songs that I wrote when I was 8 years old, when I was 15, writing six songs a night, all of the touring—would be worth it. That’s what it means to me. It’s literally everything. It’s like the Olympics for an athlete.
The Grammys are historically known for ******* **** up though, so…
As long as the people in that place know my name, that’s all that I care about. When they know your name there, you’ve made it.